Friday, May 11, 2012

Out of the Frying Pan, Into the Fire!

Federalism is not as bad as people have made it sound like. It was primarily aimed at restructuring the nation to ensure that every Nepali citizen gets an equal shot at the opportunity. Lets stick to what we wanted to do. We have failed to realize a hard fact that our politicians have set us up into fighting each other. Dear fellow Nepali citizens, we are not getting anywhere with this "ETHNIC FEDERALISM" thing. There's no point in being divided in the names of caste, creed, ethnicity and so forth. We all are born equal. Even if we have ethnic federalism, those with the access to top level will enjoy the cream that comes out of "FEDERAL MILK". So, please do not get sentimental, do not get carried away. Think twice before lashing out at other communities. This is so suicidal. We need our country to exercise our rights. Save our country which is at a graver risk of losing her identity today than ever in the modern history. Although, our decision to go to federalism may have been a mistake, we are already at the point of no return. There is no way we can back out now. Be careful with two extremist points-of view. Federalism does not necessarily mean disintegration of the country. But, ethnic federalism is not what our country needs. We need the decentralization of the power. Lets take the power back to where they belong from Kathmandu. As has been in the recent and remote history of our nation, power has changed hands many a times but has always fallen into the hands of handful of idiots. From the downfall of the Rana Regime to the rise of Panchayati era -one party system that lasted from 1960-1990, started by then King Mahendra after ousting the elected government- to the restoration of democracy in 1990 and now after the abolition of monarchy, people have always been taken advantage of. Their sentiments have been manipulated and they have always been cheated on by the politicians. Colors of ideology have differed but their intentions have remained the same. It was necessary to bring down the monarchy as it was standing in the way of Nepal's prosperity but every time after there have been political changes politicians have failed to or say ignored to follow them up with the socioeconomic changes. As a result, all those achievements have been short-lived ones. The history is repeating itself again. But, this time its face has been uglier than ever. It has threatened our identity citizens. It has sabotaged the national integrity and put the social harmony at a graver risk. People of Nepal have had the divided mentality about the much talked about federalism. While some think it is inevitable and it is a sure success formula to all the existing problems of Nepal, others are of the view that federalism is going to be catastrophic. Both the doctrines have blown the matter out of proportion. Federalism is not the recipe for disaster as some people are projecting it. And, it, by no means, can bring to an end all the problems that our country is faced with for centuries. Both types of people seem to be out of touch from the reality. No political ideology or governing system is perfect. Their success depend largely on the stakeholders and those responsible to run the country, which, of course, includes the people of the nation. Our leaders put forth multiple example in favor of and against federalism. They do not seem to realize that the issues at hands vary according to the place, culture and the context. Federalism proved to be blessing in one place does not mean it is going to be the same here too. Nor the failure of federalism in other places will cause our federalism to collapse. It is a relative matter. Nothing in this is world is absolute. The mindset of our politicians and people alike reflect the lack of observation, research and lesson learning from the past. Albert Einstein devised the 'Theory of Relativity' owing to the fact that things differFederalism is not as bad as people have made it sound like. It was primarily aimed at restructuring the nation to ensure that every Nepali citizen gets an equal shot at the opportunity. Lets stick to what we wanted to do. We have failed to realize a hard fact that our politicians have set us up into fighting each other. Dear fellow Nepali citizens, we are not getting anywhere with this "ETHNIC FEDERALISM" thing. There's no point in being divided in the names of caste, creed, ethnicity and so forth. We all are born equal. Even if we have ethnic federalism, those with the access to top level will enjoy the cream that comes out of "FEDERAL MILK". So, please do not get sentimental, do not get carried away. Think twice before lashing out at other communities. This is so suicidal. We need our country to exercise our rights. Save our country which is at a graver risk of losing her identity today than ever. Although, our decision to go to federalism may have been a mistake, we are already at the point of no return. There is no way we can back out now. Be careful with two extremist points-of view. Federalism does not necessarily mean disintegration of the country. But, ethnic federalism is not what our country needs. We need the decentralization of the power. Lets take the power back to where they belong from Kathmandu. As has been in the recent and remote past of our history, power has always fallen into the hands of handful of idiots. From the downfall of the Rana Regime to the rise of Panchayati era -one party system that lasted from 1960-1990, started by then King Mahendra after ousting the elected government- to the restoration of democracy in 1990 and now after the abolition of monarchy, people have always been taken advantage of. Their sentiments have been manipulated and they have always been cheated on by the politicians. Colors of ideology have differed but their intentions have remained the same. It was necessary to bring down the monarchy as it was standing in the way of Nepal's prosperity but every time after there have been political changes politicians have failed to or say ignored to follow them up with the socioeconomic changes. As a result, all those achievements have been short-lived ones. The history is repeating itself again. But, this time its face has been uglier than ever. It has threatened the identity of us as the citizens. It has sabotaged the national integrity and put the social harmony at a graver risk. People of Nepal have had the divided mentality about the much talked about federalism. While some think it is inevitable and it is a sure success formula to all the existing problems of Nepal, others are of the view that federalism is going to be catastrophic. Both the doctrines have blown the matter out of proportion. Federalism is not the recipe for disaster as some people are projecting it. And, it, by no means, can bring to an end all the problems that our country is faced with for centuries. Both types of people seem to be out of touch from the reality. No political ideology or governing system is perfect. Their success depends largely on the stakeholders and those responsible to run the country, which, of course, includes the people of the nation. Our leaders put forth multiple examples in favor of and against federalism. They do not seem to realize that the issues at hands vary according to the place, culture and the context. Federalism proved to be blessing in one place does not mean it is going to be the same here too. Nor the failure of federalism in other places will cause our federalism to collapse. It is a relative matter. Nothing in this world is absolute. The mindset of our politicians and people alike reflect the lack of observation, research and lesson learning from the past. Albert Einstein devised the 'Theory of Relativity' owing to the fact that things differ depending on the circumstance. If only we Nepalese could understand that. The million dollar question is what happens next and who is to blame for anything that follows? We, people, are as much to blame as our dear politicians are. We failed to think about the long term impacts of our choices. Rationale was the last thing we used while giving them the responsibilities of shaping of our future. We were way too complacent with their promises that looked too lucrative at that time. Their honey coated words jeopardized our senses. We are just paying for that. What have we got to complain about? Why are we being so grumpy? We are just having to clean up the mess we made. I am not sure, it is going to make any impact on my fellow citizens but I want to try. Stop fighting for worthless issues. Instead, let's focus on greater matters. There are too many. Let's put our country Nepal above all. Ashish Aryal Follow me on Twitter @MysticTarantula

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

The Ugly Face of War!


War is the fight between two sides that have different views on the same thing. War requires the use of weapons that can do harm to the oppositions. In this sense, war asks for the loss of human lives and human blood. Not only does the war need loss of lives, it also causes the great deal of losses of the properties. Human civilization has seen many wars over the period of time. No war that has been fought so far has brought about any changes for good. The end result of the war is only the destruction and nothing but the destruction. Some political forces try and justify the need and righteousness of the war. Although they might have good reasons to choose war over peace and reconciliation, but war is war and it winds up resulting into destruction and suffering. Not only politics, even the holy books sometimes stand for war. In Geeta, the holy book of Hinduism, Lord Krishna has said that war can be the last options when there is no way out to the problem. In today’s world, Muslim people can have flurry of reasons to wage war against those who despise their religion.  Their ‘Jihad’ demands the loss of human lives to defend their faith. Even they do not have answer to the million dollar question, can they make up for all the lives that were lost? Same is true of the Jewism and Christianity. Hitler killed Jews thinking that he would make this world a better place to live in. He was willing to go to any extent to save Christianity. But he only managed to bring down his rule. Latest example is the never ending war between Israel and Palestine. Where has the war brought them? To the path of destruction. Ask Mr. George W Bush, if he wishes he didn’t invade Afghanistan, after so many Americans and the NATO soldiers died. Ask him if he wishes he had left Iraq alone. Despite all the arguments for and against the war, one thing is evident that war has never been good and will never be good for the humanity.

If we look back at the history, not so long ago, we fought two great wars, World War I and World War II. Hundreds of thousands of tons of bombs were dropped. Hundreds of millions of people died in both the wars combined. But nothing was achieved. Except valuable human lives were lost and properties worth hundreds of millions of dollars were destroyed. Apart from the physical losses, there is an emotional price to be paid for the war. The whole generation that witnesses the war spends the rest of the life in the shadow of the fear. This loss is not less than the physical loss. Those who survive war live in constant terror and some even live crippled life. Those who take part in war may lose their body parts which in many ways is more painful than dying in the war.
We can take our(Nepali) civil war as an example. Nepal was engaged in the civil war for almost ten years, more than ten years, should I say. The state and the rebels both fought war in the name of the people. Both described their causes as the fight by the people for the people.  But the war yielded nothing. More than fourteen thousand fellow citizens were killed and whatever small infrastructure we had were wrecked and devastated. Same can be said about other South Asian Countries like India, Bangladesh, Pakistan and Sri Lanka. The wars they fought have torn their nations to shreds.
This means that war can never be good. It results into destruction and suffering and nothing else.
Ashish Aryal
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Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Let’s behave ourselves!


As they say, if you want to change things around you, how about starting with yourself?  One could not agree more.We constantly talk about us getting rude behaviour or others behaving rudely. But we take the liberty of forgetting how we behave. It does not take a great effort to behave ourselves.Simple words like thank-you, please, sorry can do the tricks for us. We have taken these words for granted and do not bother to use them at all. Simple as these words are, but they could make all the difference in the world. We have not been raised hearing those words from our elders, honestly. No offense! But it does not get any truer than this. We hardly heard them say thank-you or sorry when we were kids. We do not use these words in front of our kids either. This means that, our kids do not get to learn these words at all. Let alone understanding their impacts in the life.
We can take few examples. We never thank the shopkeepers after they give us the service. Neither do they thank us for receiving the cash.No one thanks a staff in the public vehicles for the service they provide us, before or after boarding the vehicles. They are no different from us. It hurts their ego to thank their passengers for the fare they get from the passengers. We need to understand that nobody is going to charge us extra for using these words. We must have been to one of those government offices and have been through ice-cold attitudes of the bureaucrats. They are there to serve us. We do not ask too much from them. A simple question should not have offended them. You ask those bureaucrats a question and the response you get back is hoarse “What is it?” It’s just unacceptable. A bright smile and polite answers to our questions would do us the world of good.  Simply using words like thank-you, excuse me can help ease out the atmosphere and everything around us will begin to feel different. Basics like not spitting everywhere, throwing chocolate wrappers, fruit skins and other stuffs in the trash can, a smile while giving and receiving any service at the public places would not hurt us. If we manage to make these our habits, our country will be a lot better place to live. So, when are we starting to behave ourselves?
Ashish Aryal
Twitter @MysticTarantula

Together, we can!

“We vowed our true love, though a word was not said.” These lyrics can have anyone scratch their heads as the belief in relationship is constantly deteriorating. Relationship, at present, for various reasons, has become very susceptible to decimation. It appears that relationship has lost its charisma. May be, it is because people have stopped being emotional and they are more practical these days. There were times when people would find it extremely pleasant to walk the boulevard of not only strong and lasting relationship but a happy relationship.There used to be co-operation among the people. They would be by the sides of their friends and families through thick and thin. It pretty much seems to have gone down in flames at the wake of modern era. We cannot find the same feelings of late. Especially, the people living in urban areas and the people who are trying to make a career for themselves do not want to put their professional career at risk. They tend to consider the relationship as a big hinder to their future success.

But things are less grimmer than they have been projected. Yes, there are some people out there who are having to live through a strained relationship but they are still willing to re-kindle the affinity they used to have in their relationship. Those who try walk out successfully overcoming the downsides of a relationship while those who do not  succumb to the pitfalls of infidelity, differing priority and plain tedium. Things can be worked out and we can make difference. All we need to do is get our hopes up and look a little further into the matter. We need to realize that not only is it possible for everyone to have a relationship that lasts forever it is relatively easy to do so. And we are talking about doing so outside of a fairy tale.

This article is a small effort to decipher the best kept secrets to strong and ever lasting relationships.

To begin with, Relationships are a refuge against all the outside odds, if you will. They require strong and lasting foundation as the houses we live in do. Therefore, it is required that we cultivate the habit of considering ourselves ‘us’ rather than you and me. Asking our partners before making decisions and thinking for the two people is extremely important. If we are to strengthen the foundation of our relationships we have got to develop the mindfulness of ‘us’. The sooner, the better, for that matter.

The last thing we want to do, if we are to live together with our partners until we die, is to confuse lust or infatuation for love. Be clear in mind that the former two are miles away from the latter one. Small pint of both the lust and infatuation might help your cause but outrageous use of those two elements is surely going to bring the house down.That is because they are short lived and irrational.

The essence of a strong bond or relationship is the mutual respect for each other. We need to know our partners’ need and tell them about our needs clearly. Let us not forget to pay attention to out partners’ needs.
We need to make our partners feel that we do not take them for granted. It does not take much to sustain a relationship. We may not be sharing the same dreams for the future but if we continue to support each other’s will, dreams and passions it will not be long before we start making new dreams together.

Communicating is the key to the success of any relationship. We need to communicate with our partners on a regular basis. We should avoid assuming. Never try to be mind readers, not even in the wildest of the dreams. Heed to your partners rather than guessing what they possibly think of something. Just so, we do not like/or understand what they did or said or thought, we have to ask them in person and talk. What this does is helps us get the right idea about what our partners might be thinking. During communication we have to show patience to listen to them truly.

What we should not do for the future of our relationship is do things that our partners hate. You cannot afford to be stubborn. Let our ego not destroy our relationships. Men should not forget the dates like birthdays and anniversaries. And women should stop nagging. They should not make their partners jealous either. If we allow some space for compliance and devotion saving a relationship is no rocket science.

We might have to be away from homes sometimes. When you are away keep in touch, keep calling them and try and know what they are up to. It is not a great idea to wait for our partners to call us up and ask our whereabouts. We commit that mistake and our relationships begin the journey downhill. Just by calling our partners while we are away can assure them that we still care about them. Sometimes, a small move that we make can mean the whole world to our partners.

If our endeavor is to strengthen our relationship, let us not pretend or hide things from our partners. It is really really important to speak your mind. Our partners might get mad at us at first but they will gradually realize that we told them the truth. This gives them the firm belief that they can count on us. More importantly, hiding things from our partners is the worst idea. Honesty, openness and commitment are the base of any relationship. It is more than pleasant to tell our partners how we feel about them. They are going to love even if we choose the dumbest of the ways to express our feelings. We should keep saying we love them because they can never get enough of it. It might sound a little improbable but it does not hurt to kiss our partners when we say that and keep in mind we need to kiss them like we mean it. And if saying “ I Love You” or kissing them is way too big a deal for us we can resort to saying byes or good nights.

How often does it happen that we get into the fight with our partners only to realize later that it was all our fault and we stupidly held our ground thinking that we were going to win the battle? The first thing we ought to do is clear our minds of the battle thing. It is not a battle at all. Secondly, we should be prepared to apologize. Fault or no fault, let our ego subside and let the humility overpower ourselves, let us just apologize to them. Just in case, our ego gets the best of us and we cannot garner the enough strength to do so, we can make our apologies sound queer or funny or sarcastic or even absurd. This can well save your face and the relationship as well.

One of the main reasons relationships go astray is the financial issue. It could be because we might have more than we have bargained for or we just do not have enough to spend. It could also be the cause of the relationships’ downfall if we do not agree on how to spend whatever money we have. That being said, we can easily avert the disaster caused by the financial matters. Let us be benign enough to ask our partners what their financial priorities are. After we have heard their side of the story we can put forward what our further plans are. Bingo! When we have heard one another, the common ground can readily be found on which we can maneuver our plans for the better of our relationships.

Regardless of the life time of our relationships, we need to continue to have fun. Let us have fun the way we used to when we started out as partners. Once in a while mystery dates, surprises and the favorite dishes of our partners at home will turn things around drastically. If we cannot afford all of these, just a simple gift or a bunch of flowers are ideal. We can take our fun element to the whole new level by taking some time out for our partners. Let the work, friends and families be on their own for a while. We might have kids or we may not be better off financially and we may not be away for long holidays. How about taking a weekend off in a quiet resorts?  

Can these overtures keep our relationships from crumbling down? There is no guarantee to it. But one thing is for sure, we can save our ailing relationship for a little longer which can buy us enough time to work on or start over our relationships. To say the least, these propositions can keep the troubles at bay. If this turns out to be a bipartisan effort these proffers are going to be effective because Together We Can.
Ashish Aryal
Twitter @MysticTarantula

Monday, September 5, 2011

Life is a festival only to the wise.

Editorial for @TheFolioMag

The festive season is just around the corner. All the rains have vanished giving way to the fall. There is clear and blue sky, cool breeze blowing and merry atmosphere all around. This is the normal course of the nature. Year after year, seasons have been taking their turns one after another. Believe it or not, this altering trend of the seasons is the greatest teacher one can have in the life. These seasons train us how to weather the blizzards, how to ride out the storms and how to stay safe during the catastrophes. Those who are smart enough take cues from the mother nature and use it to their advantage in the real life. The moral is preparedness is essential for the worst case scenario. Put it differently, The rotation of the seasons hints at the fact that there is going to be good times and there is going to be bad times. Regardless of the circumstances, we ought to press on. The thing is we need to stand our ground through good and through trying times. What’s more, we require to hope for the best and yearn for the light in the distant horizon. Optimism keeps our spirit alive and spirit is the essence of human lives.

Folio does not like to lag behind and we have boarded the same coach that the time is on. We are a SPECIAL EDITION this time around as the biggest and most awaited festivals are closing in. This is the best time for family re-unions. Friends can get together and and re-live the bygone days of their lives. Festivals usher in that time of the year when leisure replaces work as a priority. They bring home joy and exuberance that come from spending time with our loved ones. This is exactly why we have strong urge that our readers need to relate to the festivals. Let festival not be just an occasion that comes every year or just another red mark on the calendar. There is no need to be weighed down by the pressure of having to make it extra large. Although its hard to get that real good feeling about festivals sometimes, they should spark off a sense of excitement and fun in us. We hope to kindle that fondness for our readers with what we have featured this month. In this issue, we have it all covered when it comes to what places to pick for shopping, what brands to opt for and what is catching the latest trend. We want to be your aide so that you find better options.
Now that we have decided ‘WE ARE A SPECIAL EDITION’ for the occasion, what better way to make it larger than life issue than having Mr. Anil Shah, the CEO of Mega Bank on our side. Mr. Shah was very gracious to be a part of our ‘festive-mania’. Mr. Anil Shah needs no further introduction as he has proved his mettle in a very short amount of time. Within the first year of him being at the office, he has been looked upon as one of Nepal’s best CEO’s ever. It is safe to say that he is the alpha male in the business. We can say that because it could not have been easier for him to take charge and make things happen the way he wanted them to. That was no child’s play at all, especially at this point in time when the situation is as volatile as this. To every one's surprise, he did what everyone reckoned impossible. When the people had given up on the status-quo he saw the possibilities that no one knew existed. We are pretty much sure that the people are looking forward to knowing more about the biggest gun in the banking sector.

With everything said and done, let’s use festivals as a time to reflect on one’s good fortunes and let our heart dance. At the end of the day, we are wise people and we enjoy life as a festival.
Ashish Aryal
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